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Contributor nos.31 Christian Dixon takes the fund raiser over half way


going to keep silenceI’m not a trained or qualified social worker, neither do I have any desire to become so. But it came as a little eyebrow raiser when trying to talk with some adoption professionals, my attempts to reach out into this “field of work” were brushed off.

If I was being ingenuous, I could say that my status or lack or it i.e. not being a qualified social worker was a reason not to engage with me.  But that then also leads to a not unreasonable inference that this is an excuse which excuses them from having to consider the idea that an actual transracial adoptee might have something to bring to the table. That a person like me might actually have some merit in the formalised “adoption sector”.

If I was being paranoid I’d say that this is a deliberate ploy to keep adoptees out. To silence the voice of the adoptee. I actually don’t really believe that. It’s the same within the creative industry people who have no “formal” training as tutors and lecturers become so? How,  it’s who you know and whether that institution sees the value of your expertise as a working creative practitioner.

But then the flip side of this situation suddenly topples over. In my in-box an email inviting me to speak to another group of National Health Service professionals. The director of this team heard my last lecture and was impressed. So off I will be going again to speak to a room full of trained professionals all eager to hear from likes of little ‘ol me. Can’t help smiling at the irony. Plus I will also start blogging and vlogging for The Mothers’ Bridge of Love a charity set up by renowned author and journalist Xinran.

Talking of which I have to wrap my mind around the eternal question of Who Am I

One unexpected benefit of bilingualism is when I speak English to my daughter in China, people think I don’t speak Mandarin and talk very, very freely about all sorts of things about us. Here’s what I recently overheard!

via InCultureParent | Overheard on the Beijing Subway When People Don’t Think I Speak Mandarin.

Monday morning, 1st of July I delivered the third “lecture” or talk on the subject of being a Transracial adoptee. Today’s was ““All you need is love..?”: What happens to cultural identity in transracial adoption? A personal perspective from a Hong Kong Chinese adoptee raised in a white British family. ” for the Clinical Psychologist/Thinking Space organising committee, Tavistock & Portman NHS Foundation Trust.

It never ceases to amaze me how interesting people find what I have to say. I guess when you live it, it can become somewhat “boring” whereas if you see it for the first time as an outsider looking in then quiet possibly it is interesting. What I speak about is certainly different. Because that’s what I am, a person of difference.

If you would like to read the entire “talk” that I gave then please click here